Sorry, Foxy, but I cannot help you. You will need to see a professional

ttbn,

Remember when I asked for your opinion?

Me, neither.

The baker offers leftover cream tarts to the 3 customers and leads them out the back door.

To Yuyutsu.

The only sitution I can see this occurring is if I was in an area where I was the minority race, and I knew there was racism abudent towards me.

In that sitution my answer is simple. I always like cake. But I would probabley buy it less often.

Second to that if I wanted to change someone's hatred of me, there are a few options. Try to befriend them, or be good to them despite their anger. In either of those cases buying cake from them while they hate you likely won't help the hatred. Unless it comes at a time when they are needing costumers. Then it could be an act of kindness in a way.

If the culture at large doesn't hate you though, there's a different option entirely. Find another baker. Trying to force people to do what they don't want to do (expecially when you can go to someone else) usually isn't a good idea.

If the baker hates you, your first action should be to step back & take a look at yourself. People rarely bother to hate those they don't know, hate takes too much energy for that.

If you can see no reason for hate, then have a look else where. Are you a part of a group that annoys the rest of the society. If the hater has never even seen you before, this must be the reason.

In this case, evaluate what your group is doing to attract anything as strong as hate. Australia has absorbed millions of new, & different people, & very few of these groups of people attracted hate. They may have had to work hard at being accepted, & then welcomed, but surely it is a requirement on entering another's territory to make sure your actions are acceptable to those who's territory you enter. If they aren't you are conducting an invasion, & deserve to be repelled.

It comes back to you & yours. Give no reason for dislike, or distrust, & you will have no trouble with acceptance in Oz.

Dear Hassie,

And that's why I like you so much!