Hi (again) BAZZ...

I must admit I've found more Islamic males seem to have a greater preponderance for striking a female, than perhaps many other ethnic cultures in this country ? Though to be perfectly honest, many red blooded Aussie blokes have no scruples whatsoever about belting the 'bejesus' out of some poor wretched woman, after she innocently asked why he came home roaring drunk, six nights out of seven ?

I think many males in our community have this fallacious believe, that their 'superior position' within the family hierarchy or their very manhood itself, is rapidly being weakened and therefore compromised ? Because they're convinced there's a precipitately changing gender ascendancy happening within society, and they're being left behind ?

And their only riposte to that belief is to lash-out; generally at the poor spouse who represents the nearest, the weakest, and the 'safest' of all available targets !

I've no doubt whatsoever, our Islamic brethren are no strangers to the frequent application of gross domestic violence, both as a punishment and as Sharia remedy, for a non-compliant spouse.

O sung,
I realise you've had different experiences to most of us but I've probably only met two men like that in my entire 48 years and only known of a handful of couples who were mutually violent.
If the Feminist analysis is correct and not massively over stated we as everyday citizens should be seeing dozens of female walking wounded every time we step outside the door and our sleep would be interrupted by the screams of the tormented in our neighbourhood.
The issue with Muslim men isn't really that they come home and victimise their women, from my experience they treat them reasonably well, (if you call putting someone on a pedestal healthy) the real problem is that the males are always out and about at night in groups without while the women and girls are at home most of the time.
The most common complaint against Muslim men is that they sexually harass women based firstly on their ethnicity and then their age, young White, Asian, Islander and Aboriginal girls are seen as fair game and the Muslims make a sport of targeting couples so they can get their jollies by bashing the man and possibly get to rape the woman.
Yeah sure Whites, Indians and Asians do fight and often over women but the difference is that they are usually about in mixed company so they're never able to physically stand up to an all male Muslim gang. If you have 20 young White people out on the town and half of them are girls the group can't stand up to violent harassment by an equal number of Muslim men.
To summarise, when you have an imbalance of genders in the town centre on a Friday night there will be fighting, the problem is that when a high proportion of the people in your town are from broadly speaking "Muslim" ancestry, the imbalance is permanent,exaggerated and the violence more extreme because of the cultural practices of those immigrant descended families.

O Sung Wu, I must have led a sheltered life as I have never known of a
women who has been bashed or illtreated or a man who has been guilty
of bashing his wife. I am not saying it does not happen.
I lived in the same street for fifty years and never heard of it.
Pretty stable community though, people only left when they downsized.

It really is a sad thing to hear about. You make the decision to live
with this woman till death do us part so why make an enemy of her ?
I have never seen figures on how common wife bashing is but it is
probably a lot higher than the figures. Neighbours would know as it
would almost certainly be accompanied by shouting and screaming.
My wife and I drive each other up the wall sometimes but it would never get physical.

Very sad indeed.

Hi there BAZZ & JAY of MELBOURNE...

Much of what both of you've said is true. Of course you'll generally find more incidents of DV occur, in the more socio-economically deprived areas of Sydney, than that of the middle class or well-off suburbs. Make no mistake Domestic Violence happens right across the entire spectrum, but generally speaking it's confined to those poor buggers who have a real tough time making ends meet, each and every week.

Dysfunctional families, unemployment, kids rebelling against normal parental control, and naturally, the illicit use of drugs and unrestrained alcohol consumption, all play a much bigger part in the DV equation, than many of the Social Workers and psychologists at the coal face, seem to believe. It's only when the coppers turn up that any sense of normality just seems to collapse in a heap, and the joint erupts into a scene of neighbourhood combat ? Particularly in the SW suburbs of Sydney town !

I could go on for hours recounting what I've witnessed over the years, but still, both of you would've read just as much about the 'goings on' behind closed doors seemingly in a climate of domestic bliss, that you would be more than likely bored, rather than enlightened, I should think ?

The answer(s) are... I really don't know ? What I do know - There's always three (3) sides to the story, in all Domestic Violence matters ? Her side, his side, and the truth ! AND remember......It takes two (2) hands to clap !

OK O Sung Wi, I guess we none of us have been in others shoes.
When we had a row about something I would blow her a kiss.
It would make her as mad as hell and she would stomp off and that would be the end of it.
We must be getting mellow these days havn't had to do that for some time, hi !