My fiance and I gave up our good jobs and house to return to his mother and take care of her as she became terminally ill. We considered this a natural role and responsibility. With my history as an assistant nurse, I became her carer and we were able to keep her at home till she passed away.
During this time revelations were made that were life changing for my partner, making my 'caring role' extremely difficult. Relatives turned up, paperworks were uncovered - a life of fraud and deception.
To cut a long story short, the mother/wife ran away abandoning one son and taking the youngest (my now fiance). Mother had a son to this philanderer ( who hasnt changed to this day). My fiances apparent father showed total favouritism to his new younger brother until a few years later abandoning the woman and boy he stole from another, plus his own son.
Twenty years later this man returns old and down and out. For five years my fiance, feeling sorry for the old guy, spent a fortune on him feeling the need to compensate for the time they lost, that he eagerly accepted.
Before the mother died, having discovered these life long secrets, time was spent offering her the opportunity to reveal the truth, ridding herself of a past full of lies.(mum do you need to tell me anything, is there anyone you want to see etc)nothing.
(Hard story to cut short) My fiance now knows his dad isnt his dad, and his brother (who has turned out just like his father, leaving a trail of kids, moving on to bigger and better things..apparently) is hishalf brother, met his full brother just before the funeral and has yet to meet his real father.
His name was changed very early, not legally so, with everything else, he isnt even who him!(We found a tiny newspaper clipping, naming both parents and himself)

Out of all this mess the most damage was done to the original husband and father, and the two boys. My fiances fake father will be getting what he deserves for his deceit. The main offender who is now dead, got away with her remorseless evils, but if there is some form of god I hope their justice system is better than ours.

chrisgaff
I always enjoy your posts and have learnt a lot from them.
There would have been so many terrible and sad circumstances back then, one of them being my dads situation, having been born around the same time in war torn country. Control had taken over peoples lives, they did what they could possibly humanly do to preserve their families. Many dads mums, children ,grandparents losing their battle, and loved ones. Clinging to who and what they had, and cherishing the fond memories, to pass on. Extending the love that shared and lost.
Kind regards

Feminism/secularism has got what they want (ie destroyed normal families) just because they can't control themselves and want guilt free sex with whoever comes along. No wonder the kids are topping themselves at such a young age and they are dumb enough to ask why.

chrisgaff1000,

There were many sad stories during the war and later, as a consequence of harm from the experience.

Did your mother raise you alone, or did your 'mothers husband' return from Changi and accept you as a father?

Coming from a cattle property in a remote area I attended a boarding school where I met many whose fathers died through hostilities, and many too who had lost fathers and sometimes mothers as well through the farm and other accidents that were common at the time. It was surprising how many class mates had lost both parents through various causes and were being raised by other relatives. Not always happy experiences, although they were tough times anyhow in the country.

otb 'mothers husband'? unnecessary