This is interesting-

Esther Perel: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | TED Talk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sa0RUmGTCYY

It talks about the paradox between sex and love between novel risk and boring stability. A child is happy to explore when they know they can return to safety.

And life isn't all about sex or love or money in a sense- it's about stability with occasional novelty.

Human's are paradoxical- their brains are made of many layers which have contradictory drives and physically different structures- reptilian (flight, fight- brain font), mammilian, primate, human. In order to avoid reflecting this instability in society human's need to be active in promoting stability in society and more broadly. Some prefer to stir people up and let nature take it's course- chaos- and they can divide people against themselves- and they can profit.

We need to reduce complexity to reduce instability.

ttbn,

Being your nasty self as usual, Foxy is not asking you to spill your guts, who would want to see what comes out anyway. This is a free forum, and topics are approved by the Administrator, not YOU, although you have said in the past you think YOU would do a better job, and you want certain people and topics banned. Get real!

Esther Perel says that imagination is critical- paraphrasing "even if the suiter goes to the office for a million dollar purchase it doesn't matter if reception isn't at the desk".

Perhaps that is the problem with those that continually seek novelty- "a lack of imagination"- they have an external locus of identity.

Hi Aries54,

It's funny how people who know the least about us, have
the most to say.

Thank you for your kind words.

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Hi Paul,

I agree that there's nothing like a good book but sometimes
work exhaustion sets in and television provides an escape.

My TV programs vary. From reality shows to murder mysteries,
to live entertainment. I enjoy Quiz Shows (for the questions).
Shows like "Millionaire Hot Seat," "Million Dollar Minute,"
"The Chase," then I also watch "Kavanaugh QC", "Inspector
Morse", "Midsummer Murders," "Lewis," and even "Father Brown".

There's also - "Insiders," "Q & A", "Foreign Correspondent,"
"Australian Story," "Four Corners," "Back Roads," "Getaway."
I love " As Time Goes By," with Dame Judi Dench.
And many others. It depends on my mood.

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Hi David,

I love Woody Allen's sarcastic and witty humour. For example:

"I took a speed-reading course and read "War and Peace" in
20 minutes. It involves Russia."

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Hi Hasbeen,

Reality shows are pure escapism for me. It's interesting
watching the lives of other people and how others live
and think. We can watch a wide range of personality traits
and relationships. Sometimes I find people with whom I can
identify.

I'm not sure about arranged marriages though. Although I
do think common interests and similar cultural backgrounds
do help for family connections as well.

My husband and I met at a University Convention held in
Melbourne. It was a holiday romance. I was from Sydney and
returned home after the Convention. I thought I'd not hear
from this charming fellow again. But, he turned up in
Sydney a few weeks later and ended up moving to Sydney.
The rest as they say is history.

First came marriage, then travelling overseas, living and
working on two continents. Over ten years in Los Angeles.
Two children and four grand children later - here we are.
Both still together. Still in a committed relationship.
Did someone say - stability and harmony?

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Hi Canem Malum,

Thank you for the link. And for introducing us
to Esther Perel's work on relationships. It certainly is
interesting.

The forced abandoning of imagination is causing kids to become emotionless, insensitive droids at a stage when they're supposed to be adults !

Did someone say - stability and harmony?
Foxy,
How many times did you & your husband have to leave a place to look for work, accepting what you could get, not what you really wanted ?
I had to give up my flying lessons when the Goaf & Co sent companies broke including the one I worked for.
Three years of basic wage with no affordability to continue training followed & by then I had to spend nearly half my wage on renting for the following 25 years.
Stability for me didn't come until my late 40's & harmony will vane once the Woke occupy all seats in authority.
I'd love to last to see them be felled by their own stupidity !