That's a great point James and you're right I think.

However, there is nothing wrong with traditional sex roles - or sex -in my book viva la difference. Yes I'm hetero and been married since I was a teenager to the same bloke. We haven't though maintained any sort of traditional roles (for several reasons) and we've been astonished over the years at the - social disapproval we've encountered. That's what brought us both to feminism - it makes sense of what we've experienced.

The point of feminism is not to make women and men the same or to hold that they are; the point is to make sure that nobody is excluded or prevented from fulfilling their personal potential by formal and informal rules and rewards and punishments that dictate that they can't aim for something because of their sex. Like laws that prevented women from some educational opportunities, and notions that girls didn't need an education.

Feminist analyses simply imvestigate the way that things are connected and operate in society to keep people in or out of certain opportunities and who benefits from that.