partTimeParent,

For a start, who the hell are you to tell me how to organise my family life!

When my wife goes back to work, our choice is me 4 days, her 3, or me 5 days her 2. We don't really want our child in child care more than 2 days a week. We have decided we would rather keep living in our home that saves us both an hour a day in travel, and to spend more money on trips to NZ for my child and wife to see her family. I would love to be a full time parent actually, but we cant afford that with these other priorities we have. I earn about 50% more than her, and I have done the math.

Sorry Usual Suspect.

I didn't mean to tell you how to organise my family life. I only wanted to point out that we have choices

The common result that the mother "Plays" with the kids, while the father "Pays" for them needs to be questioned.

Especially since we have nearly 50% divorce rates. Since the Divorce Court almost certainly forces the payer to remain an outsider in his children's lives, post divorce