Well done. I suspect many would not be mature enough and sufficiently in control of their more destructive emotions to achieve such a result. It is pleasantly refreshing to see that it is possible. Apart from the obvious emotional benefits for the children, it is also far more workable financially, as both parents are working to maintain one abode, rather than two. And it avoids that dread body, the CSA.

David,

I remarkable story and thank you for sharing. Terribly courageous, pragmatic, insightful and mature. Well done for plotting a lesser of three evils.

Can't get my head around that, too complicated for me. Glad you know what you are doing.

I too loved my ex wife until the Harpies from the Marcia Womens Refuge showed up on the scene. Lies in court, lies to the NSW Police, lies to my boys, and nothing but misandrist foaming at the mouth. I hope they all get their just desserts. Destroyers of families and any hope of reconciliation.

A pox and pestilence upon the CSA as well!

At the very least an independent inquiry should be held into these agents of misery. A Royal Commission would be money well spent.

I've manged to hold off career, job opportunities and many things over the past 13 years to care for my great boys. No thanks to the CSA and their harbingers of misery.

In stark contrast to government policy, there are no euphemisms in this definition of shared parental responsibility.

No, its not 'family', but its 'parentchild relationship', which requires a little exploring.

There is a gift at birth, a gift of unconditional love the child brings, which is no more apparent than the first moment between the father when he is there to take his child on delivery into his arms, when this bond founded on babies love is sealed for life...this moment I have witnessed a thousand times as a doctor delivering babies and many times I have seen the parallel with driving force of creation itself.

The reality is that the womans mind is occupied on numerous isssues at this time, difigurement, discomfort, out of control etc and her focus is and should be there and it is not a negative issue, just acceptance of the reality of the moment.

Thus the first 6 years of life in this relationship begins, which is truly only fatherchild bonding, interdependence and commitment...primary foundation is 'giving and returning of love cycle' on which child development thrives, this love is a feeling that is real, as real as the misery if the fatherchild is force separated...

6 to 12 years, when adult characteristics of personality and increasing independence in their ever increasing circle of the world around the father start forming, the woman now has more to relate with the child

12 to 18, this is the womans world where she can truly give the child the practical people skills to child to develop a balance life in adult...

So if you want a child, what you are actually saying is you are now an adult with knowledge and skills of life to achieve a balanced life, and want to impart that to a child of yours and which is natures basic driving force in propergation of species...so keep the promise

Sam