I hadn't checked this thread for a while. Couldn't stop laughing because I had this image in my head of Philo on a hover board (to avoid stepping on an ant) just like Michael Fox in Back to the Future.

Tangle, thanks for sharing this- don't let anyone ever make you feel guilty about your decision.

Tangle,

Under the circumstances you described, I also support the decision you made. Plus, I believe that it's important to put the past in the past. A person can ask "what if" about many important decisions one makes in life -- thereby letting the past control today. To put the past where it belongs does not require erasing the memory -- that would be hard -- but simply to acknowledge that we can only live in the present.

I'm working with a twelve year old boy in my mental health program who disclosed today, for the first time to his peers during a group therapy session, that he had been sexually abused when he was three years old by an employee of a daycare center. Since the incident, he has kept the past alive and has been miserable. After the disclosure, he asked if it could turn a guy "gay" if he had been butt raped. I am very proud of the courage he showed by the disclosure. It's the begininning of the work to end his Post Traumatic Stress. I hope your disclosure will help you put the past in the past also.

Robert Eggleton
"Rarity from the Hollow"

Tangle

You are not only brave but you are not alone. I have had to choose abortion and I have never regreted my decision. To have continued with the pregnancy would've been wrong for many reasons. Thank you for your story.

Abortion must remain an alternative. This is why I am in favour of any medical treatment which is safer for women - particularly for women who (like my sister) are allergic to general anaesthetic.

As all threads about women's fertility degenerate into a debate on the pros and cons of abortion, I am thinking of starting a general discussion entitled: Women's fertility; just who really is in control?

What do you think?

email me at: ripley66@fastmail.fm