I was thinking of sending a post on social media about the stuff we get urging men to lose weight, build up our muscles, take supplements and generally try to look like some Afro-American bodybuilder packed with muscle. Ha ha ha.

I don't mind some of these- as they spur me on in my efforts to exercise. But the men I know from 40 onwards are worried about their increasing waist, their reduced energy, a lack of energy and enthusiasm, and failure to act like a 25 year old porn star.

Many of us get some help from a GP. But we learn to be happy with small successes. A hug from grand-kids. A spectacular sunset. A kind word from a stranger. A great book. A funny TV show.

I recently read Leigh Sales 'Any Ordinary Day" and found it genuinely inspiring:

https://www.penguin.com.au/books/any-ordinary-day-9780143789963

And I'm as cynical and critical as anyone I know.

So take heart, mate. Life brings many surprises. Be patient with your body and with yourself. Accept any compliment gladly. I do!

Someone tells me I look good, or I look fit, and I glow with pleasure!

Hope this helps.