Anti. What did i say to get that remark for. If this man was any good at all he would sort her out. She apparently needs help. And you are just as bad as him for covering for him. She takes it out on the kids, i would be putting her away for that alone. You are aiding criminal actions.

He's doing his best to manage the problem as best he can, with DOCS and her family involved. DOCS are of the view that he could not cope on his own if she was not part of the family and none of the family wants her going anywhere either, so they work around it.

Your comments deserved my remark because they were shallow, blamed him for her situation and were about as helpful as any other kind of heckling. It's very easy to be absolutist and that's precisely what's wrong with so much of the rhetoric around both family violence and family law more generally.

Not much need for thinking if everything is set out in little square boxes labelled "victim" and "perpetrator".

It appears that no one is going to try and defend the 99% claim.
That would be a difficult proposition.

To sumarise, DV is not a male problem, it's a human problem. LIke child abuse both gender commit it not on the basis of their gender but much more so by factors such as substance abuse, poverty, mental illness etc. It can happen away from those factors just as lung cancer can happen to those who've never smoked but it's much less likely.

Women get hurt more because they are not generally as physically strong as males. Males suicide at far higher rates than women so maybe we don't stand up to emotional abuse as well, if so it does not prove that we are always the innocent party.

Continuing to target only male violence against women does not break cycles of violence where the female initiates the violence and it creates false perceptions that hurt men in other area's such as family law disputes.

It's unlikely that we will make much further progress in reducing family violence until that violence is recognised as a human problem rather than a male problem.

Those who want the violence to continue can wear their white ribbon's, they can swear but I won't be joining them in the lies and spin.

R0bert