Hello.
Having just read your piece on young men, I found myself feeling very annoyed angry and disgusted. Being a married mother of three young adults two of them young men. I found your article very untrue. My two sons are not teenagers anymore, my husband and I have had an enormus battle with them, having tried to teach them all we could about money alchole, drugs, responsible sexual behaviour. There has been nothing we could have done to show and teach them differently. But know they are both addicted to drugs, drink excessivly sex is about the only thing they do not do. We have kicked them out of our home we have tried to get them to facilities for help to councellors and anything else that we were able to think of. Our young men were taught all about money how to budget what happens if you borrow money from banks all about the dangers of taking drugs of any kind all the problems of alchole. But this has not helped them at all. I think as parents all we can do is show them the way and teach them all we can, but at the end of the day the decisions they make are their own NOT OURS. We as parents can only be held resposible for so long is you teach them and tell them the right things they must be responsible. Do not shrug of your own responsibilities because they are not man enough to admit to a mistake. As parents we can only do so much, we are not miracle workers.

Khesan.

Hello Daniel,

I was busy browsing the internet for help when I came accross your article. I think what you say is very true. Problem is - how do we go about fixing it? I have a 20 year old son who is very loving and decent, but he has fallen into the trap of "I want it now" and doesn't think of his future. He is getting into so much debt and I am amazed that financial organisations just keep lending him more and more money, even though he is not paying them back! There is no way he can carry on like that without eventually getting into a great deal of trouble, but he won't listen to my advice. At that age young men think they know it all and parents are just overly concerned.

Who can I go to for help? How can I make him realise that his financial situation is far worse that he realises?

Please can you help me?