“But to love those who bore you, or who annoy you, or even outright hurt you would be to do something remarkable and sadly rare.” It would also be extremely dishonest.

You cannot love someone else until you first learn to love yourself and that means trying to create the best relationships and the best environment for yourself that is possible without impinging on the rights of others. To accept the behaviour of others which impinges upon your rights is not love but a lack of self-love. Jesus obviously did not love himself because he preached that you should deny your own rights and let others behave in ways that are aggressive and unjust. He did, however, say that it would all work out right in the end when the unjust and aggressive people would be punished in the next life and the meek would inherit the earth. So he obviously wanted justice and peace but he wanted God to bring it about.

Why would you want God to do what you can do for yourself? We are quite capable of asserting our own rights to peace and justice and most people are reasonable in altering their behaviour if we ask them to. Many people do not love themselves enough to assert their rights so they join the band wagon of those that believe it will all be fixed by God in heaven. All this says is that they believe in justice and peace but they want some authority to give it to them rather than have to uncover the reasons why they cannot assert themselves in the face of those around them.

Christianity is a refuge for those unable to love themselves enough to assert their own rights.

No, phanto, it's for those who recognise that there are more important things than asserting their own rights.

Your claims are logically flawed. If Jesus "obviously did not love himself" then by your logic he could not love others, yet from his actions it was clear that he did.

The reality is that objectives often conflict. Creating the best environment for yourself can adversely affect others even if it doesn't impinge on their rights. Jesus wanted justice, but there were two other things He wanted more: mercy, and for people to know God.

It's not all about the next life, it's about bringing enormous improvements to this life. Jesus showed us that far more can be achieved when you stop prioritising your own rights over the needs of others. Which is not an easy thing to do.

The reactions that come naturally to humans are often very different from those that ultimately have the best effect. Asserting your own rights often means others feel hard done by. Whether rightly or wrongly, they will blame you for that and try to get their own back. Jesus broke the cycle of blame.