...This article (as interesting as it is), fails to address the human instinct to "obsess".
Without obsession, no relationship would survive past the point of initial copulation, as in much of the animal world!

Au contraire. It's exactly what rendered my own committed relationship asunder!
And the possible reason many young men are choosing to remain single?
Or why the divorce rate has risen to a staggering 40%!
My Gran had a saying, why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free!?
And people who now just judge the book by its cover, are all to often, in for a rude awakening!
Internet dating may be fine, but the only real way to get to know the real person, is by living with them!
And actions always speak louder than words!
And it the little acts of kindness,(done daily) that is the real glue that binds!
Rhrosty.

An entertaining article, but I wasn't really sure what the authors were trying to say.
Are they suggesting that women prefer men who have had previous partners?
I know many married couples who met at school and married the first person they went out with.

Certainly there are many couples who are married for the second time, but I wasn't attracted to married men who were out there trawling for new conquests.
If a married man was willing to stray once, then I would consider he would do it again with his next partner!

My sister divorced her husband and then went on Internet sites to find a 'friend' but it has been a disaster as far as the rest of her family and friends are concerned.
Her new partner is not at all 'compatible' with her and she could do so much better.
She likes him though, so what can we say?

Interesting article. It happened to me once, when I was trying to attract the favours of woman A, who was not reciprocating my interest. But then when women B showed interest, all of a sudden woman A decided she was interested in me after all. Didn't realise those wily entrepreneurs had set up a company to provide this service.

It also happened in Indonesia where one woman was acting as the 'wing-man' for another. Woman A was singing the praises of woman B, saying you could be happy marrying and having a family with woman B, who was sitting there smiling, and I was chatting and joking with them about all this, when all of a sudden the first one's spiel turns into the the plural, "we [excluding the listener" could do this and "we" could do that.

"What?" I said "You mean, happy with *two* wives?"

"Yes!" they replied with one voice LOL.

It was great and I think there should be more of it.

Rhrosty

"why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free!?"

Your Gran was very wise. I buy powdered skim milk - at $5.95 - way too expensive.

Pete Planta

Malcolm has got this completely wrong. Ladies are not judging the quality of a bloke by the girl on his arm, & thus deciding whether to make a play for the bloke. No way, it is their natural cattiness coming out, rather than judgment reinforcement.

What they are doing is judging whether they can beat the girl first, then looking to see if the bloke is worth the effort.

As a mid 20s bloke, busy working hard to earn the money to pay for my motor racing, & working on the car, I did not have much time to socialize, or look for a girlfriend.

I found at social gatherings, as a single in the crowd, you tended to disappear. However, have a lady on your arm, & a large number of other ladies would check her out, then you.

I did have 3 single lady friends, & I mean friends, who did not like going anywhere alone. They would accompany me, or I them when asked, to various places. These ladies were definitely looking for husbands. I was unsuitable as husband material, as one told me, she did not want a husband who turned up dead one Sunday night.

If you looked you could see the ladies surreptitiously checking out your companion, & then you. My lady friends would sometimes go home with someone else, where I, never having mastered the fast pick up line, did so only occasionally. In fact, looking back those many years I can see that it was the ladies who chose to pick me up, rather than any winning skills on my behalf.

It is these experiences, that lead me to believe Malcolm has the cart in front of the horse here.