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The egalitarian, global commodification of s*xuality : Comments
By Melinda Tankard Reist, published 14/5/2010Women, we’ve arrived: we can participate in the s*xual objectification of men in the same way we have been objectified through history.
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>We know we are empowered because now we can buy men like they buy women.
Hmm. Men can’t “buy women”. A prostitute is not selling “herself”. No property right in her results from the transaction. The customer has no right of exclusive possession, no right to lease, mortage or alienate her person, or any other non-consensual act. In fact, equity will not even recognise a legally enforceable right to personal performance of the contract.
A prostitute is not selling herself, she’s selling a service. It is true that she needs the use of her body to perform the service, but so do doctors, dentists and waiters, but no-one ever says that they are selling “themselves”. Employment is in fact not the same thing as slavery, albeit it sometimes feels that way!
So similarly, women buying the sexual or companionable services of a man aren’t “buying a man”. They are not buying “flesh” – an absurd moral horror and hypocrisy about sexuality that should have ided out with the sex-hating creed of the monks of the dark ages, w@nking into their cassocks.
The reason buying the sexual services of prostitutes is predominantly male is not because women can’t or shouldn’t do it. It’s because they generally don’t want to. The author’s starting proposition is not correct. The sexes are not equal, and one of the main ways they are not equal is that men have far more interest in having casual sex with members of the opposite sex on a few seconds’ acquaintance, whereas women aren’t. There is no female equivalent of the phenomenon of men buying casual sex with women, but if there were, it would be for ‘boyfriend experience’, not casual sex. It would be for a nice man to be kind, gentle, considerate, good-humoured and to give the women a relaxing, stimulating, exciting time, with or even without sex.