Those were the times, that was the mind-set.

This is now, this is OUR mind-set.

Until about 1970, no country in the world paid single mothers' benefit: everywhere in the world, and at all times up until then, it was assumed that babies born to an unwed mother were either supported by her family (rarely), by his family (extremely rarely), or were put in homes, hopefully to be adopted out. Or of course, knocked on the head.

Avoiding this stigma was (and stil is) the major reason for keeping young girls cooped up, working on gheir Glory Boxes or whatever, under the watchful eye of parents, big brothers and uncles. After all, it's generally more difficult to marry off damaged goods.

And that's how it's been, right or wrong, for all of time except just the last forty years.

We do things differently now. So why the hell should we apologise for what other people did, and had done for yonks, at a different time ?

One thing that disgusts me, Lexi, about apologies, is that it gives power to the apologer, to indulge his/her goodness, to show his or her superiority to past generations, and to benevolently give something to the apologee. After all, the power to give entails the power to withhold, and even to take.

Makes me puke.

Joe