Jewely you say Lilith is not from our past, if you are right it surprises me.
You a few posts ago expressed surprise after I named my rudest ever poster,
I should start this with gee I am sorry, no why lie she earned that award.
Foxy once started a thread,think about this, saying good by,she is unwell had an operation in front of her and feared it may kill her.
The insulting references made to her are the worst thing I ever saw here in print.
Fot goodness sake why has being nice become a crime?
Trust me Julie, I am no coward no crawler no fool, this forum is not In crisis is not in need of change and not under control of a dictator.
IF I ran it this morning two recent posters would be gone for life,and may be a few would know why OLO is ok.
Life is hard at times for all of us, but fact is people like jinny are miss using this forum and driving posters away.
Now my old job was called organizer,so I can not stop trying to move people into nice tidy ranks,lets get our hands in our pockets put a few bob, cash you Young people into our future here so we can e mail in private and keep some issues between us, Julie stay the nice person you are
Belly

I am hogging it a bit this morning but have a question for those who contributed to this thread with balance and maybe GY too.
Much of the evidence we got here is flawed, people who did not read deleted posts can be left out .
And yet the post was deleted because it went too far,was unwanted or dangerous to this place.
So first thought was lets have it shown for say 12 hours in a say car park type thread.
Will not work will it?
Still offensive or slanderous or just not fit to publish/seemingly sponsor by letting it stay.
So answers please, maybe just bit more explanatory in the deleted notice?
IDEAS?

Corny I think you read stuff like people are trying to be mysterious or something when that isn’t what is happening. Other posts already contained bits of info so they didn’t know they had to repeat it. Who might be watching refers to the ones in private contact with others but not themselves on OLO anymore.

Belly it’s like when I first joined cause I met Wendy over on another site and had a big fight with her she suggested I might like OLO and should come check it out. She told me who the regulars were and to go check out various threads.

Yes I know, Foxy said she had cancer but then Ginx who had also had several cancers thought it odd Foxy was logging in every day. Wendy described it to me a long time ago as she was trying to get me up to speed on peeps here. I wouldn’t have known whose defense to jump to myself Belly, two women both claiming to have a horrible disease? But recently you put in public something about “Lexi don’t leave” when she never mentioned leaving in public so I guessed you were talking to her via e-mail.

Now if I started my own thread saying adieu I am dying I am sure Anti and Corny would say something along the lines of “Pfft drama queen”. It would really bother me if they got banned for it though and bother me more if complaints were made on my behalf over it.

I do not believe Graham is a dictator, I think sometimes he is just busy so he’ll deleted something as the swiftest way of dealing with a complaint then doesn't want to hear anymore about it. It is pretty dictator-like in its execution. And there is obvious favoritism here subconscious or not.

We choose to be here anyway, some didn’t and some had the choice removed. Belly if you aren’t on the receiving end of something you often don’t notice it is there. Took me awhile to see the male issue since it isn't really my "thing".

Belly I've often wished that some of those posts could be left up but in reality I doubt that it would make any difference. Those most determined to see bias will tend to decide that the offending post was not that bad or did not mean what it says etc. Some pretty nasty posts have been defended in that past with the most amazing contortions.

Keeping them around would probably just be an excuse for endless debate about moderation. There was one I saw recently prior to it's deletion which surprised me as a deletion candidate. By itself I doubt that it was particularly bad but I had the impression that the poster was making it clear that they wanted to be destructive here. That's not likely to earn much leniency.

The downside to having posts deleted is that they can't be referenced in the future when someone is showing obvious double standards.

R0bert

Jewely,

I've been fascinated lately by the puzzlement shown in how the forum works. I'm starting to think that maybe I'm missing something because most of the time here I just go on automatic pilot.
Most of us come here by ourselves and work out the various personalities as we go along - it's not that different from the real world in that respect. We use our intuition to guide us. For instance, it was no surprise to me to find last night that jinny had invited her friend to do some mischievous trolling because she had mentioned her friend "the supertroll" in an earlier post. Belly knows how Foxy operates on this forum and would be sensitive to her ways - not necessarily in touch by email.
You, however, appear to be aligned with some sort of female brain's trust which seeks to have a comprehensive analysis of certain posters before proceeding. I'm just curious as to whether there is a command centre that initiates procedure during encounters with OLO...which all sounds rather hilariously cloak and dagger.
I enjoy your own posts very much and appreciate you breaking things down for us in order that we may see more clearly.

I wish I was part of a female brain trust. I could do with the help. I haven’t heard from Wendy for a year now and although she gave me my initial OLO run down of personalities here it was more about Christians and animal rights stuff… neither are something I’m really passionate about although certainly do hold opinions on.

I did discover that Fractelle told Graham that Lily was Ginx. I mailed Graham and denied it cause no she aint and mailed Ginx who was furious at the accusation and has never returned here under any other ID. Made me laugh, others weren’t so amused.

But I was so bored last week and I went back and really read the three Cyberia links that were given here. Was quite shocking and Houel had nailed it but I didn’t know how well until then.

My thing has always been people, how they interact and more how they argue an issue than the issues themselves. And 20 years ago I ran a very popular general conversation type web site before there was an internet available. Lots of folks went from CB to modem back then. I guess that is where the interest in the people and how they communicate came from, being a moderator isn’t easy and being seen to be fair was one hell of a struggle at times. People did form alliances within that community and they did gang up on others. It’s natural and OLO is not immune to it either.

So the rules matter but not as much as how they are implemented.

And back then, everyone knew where I lived and sometimes would just show up to say hello to their favorite (or not) host (SysOp). Maybe that is why I don’t find the internet as scary as some and I am crap at being anon.