Country Girl,

I do understand your point, but I cant agree. I would much rather live in the real world than inside the matrix.

'If it were a once-off affair, it might be better for me (and for the kids sake), not to know, because I would leave him.
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You're a funny one. It seems you would much rather live a lie than face the truth.

Actually US, I prefer to deal in the truth. But I am very hardline on what I accept and dont accept - once that truth came out that would be the end of it. And possibly for our kids that might not be the best option (I suspect it would be fine for them eventually, but am not close-minded to the idea that what is in my best interest is not always in everyone elses). 5 years ago I would have given a completely different answer - age is slowly mellowing me!

well I think this thread is badly drifting from the point, which is the hoo haa of Ludwig's claimed $1 billion "debt", which is a total lie [but good enough to pass muster with the mushrooms that have yet to read my book]

all of this to try to prop up the CSA, which except for the political might of the 2,000 lawyers employed by CSA should have been axed when UK axed their own CSScheme.

the implications for our economy are huge because it would also allow the 380,000 men on the dole CSA identifies to return to the workforce [another $15 billion back into hospitals, roads etc]

Country Gal,

'But I am very hardline on what I accept and dont accept - once that truth came out that would be the end of it.'
Same here. Once the power balance of the relationship is skewed it's over really. If you'll accept cheating, you're telling your partner you'll accept any behaviour, and that you don't respect yourself.

I think kids can smell a lie though so it's a waste of a life staying together for the sake of the children. The best thing you can do for your kids is lead a happy life yourself. I also think people without the courage to leave their comfort zone often use their children as an excuse. It's not a nice thing for your children to be made to feel they are responsible for your misery.