so guys I guess connection between 'your_body_space' and confidently developing and maintaining a 'meaningful_happy_life' state is understood.

Now areas of brain...parietal lobe...peaky side of heads, area which integrates all those 'electrical impulses'...how brain reacts to all stimulation...into 'understandable image' from'impulses' to 'environment' and 'self-state' in each moment...which constantly compared with past 'similar' memory...allows assessment of each moment in situation...http://www.neuroskills.com/tbi/bparieta.shtml

another area important to us...frontal lobe and 'executive function'...http://www.minddisorders.com/Del-Fi/Executive-function.html which contains areas of brain we use/fail to achieve 'meaningful happy life' state...

next important area deals with emotions...we are still learning about this...used to be called 'limbic system' but now misnomer...http://www.humantruth.info/limbic_system.html and again its all essentially electrical impulses...so if one 'observes' themselves first to assess how their brain is 'conditioned' to react to specific parts of life eghome, work, social... then frontal lobe used to modify to improve 'happiness' state...which usually involves lots of 'pain' and struggle at first...yep...brain is a creature of habit...and changing its routine is a struggle...leads to increasingly healthier flexible adaptive brain at your disposal...now you see why destructive/constructive assessment is one of the most fundamental ones we must make and quickly...even of our own children...so we can effectively inter-relate with the other...

working example...healther mills...my working personality of her from tv intervies...very selfish,very aggressive,'quite' people centered, and very destructive core nature...if paul(mccartney) used his brain...he would/should have known this without experiencing since from her acts...she on other hand has been very 'successful' and achieved a 'happier' state...only problem now is she will oppress and suppress pauls child into 'unhappy controlled state' to her benefit...so should not have dominant control of young child...otherwise child as adult will be in negative 'happiness self-state'...and always struggling with fear and unhappiness...and easily controllable by others including 'sisters'(destructive-female-energy for benefit)...hope all this makes sense...

...so how did heather trick paul...for he divorced her when he knew who she really was...yep...'skilss of deceit'...'destructive' become masters at deceit early for aids their core traits to achieve 'happiness'...

Sam
Ps~yep...by experience the 'scales' I further subdivide into 3parts each side of little/quite/very...same to destructive/constructive...and better the brain becomes,less varying happens with time to person_personality_scale...

"very selfish,very aggressive,'quite' people centered, and very destructive core nature" to heather mills...

pointed out that 'very selfish' and 'quite people centered' is still same scale...corrected 'balanced(in the middle) emotional_mental, very aggressive,'quite' people centered, and very destructive core nature...

best of traits...its not 'very' to any scale but in the middle ie 'balanced'...or 'similar' scale to one self...with such people one can lower the body_space 'wall'...which enables a increasing meaningful relationship...which should happen if you got the working_personality_assessment right/close...especially the 'constructive' part...makes for best of good brothers...

the hardest to assess is constructive/destructive before you experience it from their acts later...keep all your senses sharp and open...including spiritual eye...or 'eye of energies'...for you have to place them somewhere on the scale within 5 to 6seconds of first meeting...and with time and experience one starts to get the hang of it....including detect how deceit expresses itself...eg 'ever-attentive obliging and available' pleasing skills...while careful attention paid to 'their perceived image' including dress, body language etc...usually comes across as 'false/fake'person...

and remember this is not for 'judgmental' purposes...because heather mills is 'very aggressively destructive' does not make her bad...her acts do...yep, how the 'executive brain' overcomes 'the initial response/desire' and modify it before acting in each moment to achieve a balanced outcome...this is available to the person...question is will they choose it or prefer destructive dominant power and control over relationship...their is a pleasure to person who acts to achieve this position...the personality scale is like 'abcd for language'...what you write using it is what matters and judged...

one with experience can interact meaningfully with any person while protecting own body_space effectively; only difference is how meaningful the relationship is...eg a destructive and constructive do not mix well in trying to build a 'meaningful personal relationship'...one seeks self-benefit while disrupting the balance of daily situation. while the other keeps 'adjusting' to keeping some balance...end result is destructive gets controlling power and meaningful_relationship dies and replaced with fear/emotional pain/behaviour control etc

Sam