Shonga - If you really mean what you express in your posts then you are indeed fated, and I really empathise.
My original post was over 500 words in an attempt to personalise it but I had to edit it savagely down to the allowable limit. My point was either lost or diluted so, in a nutshell, here it is. "John" did a filthy thing and he was punished mentally and physically for it relentlessly and continually for over thirty five years. Now he's released. Are you glad his suffering is gone? Can you put your personal experiences aside for a second or two and try to imagine my plight? I saw the results of this punishment and my kindness killed him. I pulled the trigger. I sprung the trap. I got over it, you must.
I will post no more on this matter.

Is this really an increasing problem, are there more an more paedophiles preying on our children? Perhaps not. After all its certainly a sickness that has been in Australian society for a long long time, and in many old civilisations if you read the right texts.

So what can be done? Perhaps the best approach to take is to prepare our kids for a world where not everything is safe and stable. Make them a little more fierce and self-reliant. This by no means is a complete protection, but the simple teaching of stranger danger is a good start (hardly hear about it any more). Then good sex education at home from an appropriate age - what it is, who its done by (adults) and that its wrong if anyone tries to do this to a kid. Rather than trying to shield our kids constantly, we should be giving them tools with which to shield themselves.

Perhaps too if as a society we would be less hard on those close to a charged or convicted paedophile, then there wouldnt be such an issue with naming them. But most of them are married or have been, they have friends, parents etc. If it were only the offenders themselves that would be in the firing line of public opinion once released, then having public information about where they are would not be such a concern.

Enkew - although you say you are over it your emotive language, the fact that you laboured over your post so much and the tone you employ suggests otherwise.

I am sure you have been told repeatedly that you did not kill "John":- yet you still don't seem to believe it.

In an earlier paragraph you said "He led a life already removed from the living". Which of course is the key. "John" was already dead: killed by the cruelty of society; his own actions and decisions and the anguish these caused. There is no guilt for you in being the compassionate one who closed his eyes for him.

His words were grateful thanks, to be taken at face-value, I should think. Had he realised they would transfer some of his anguish onto you perhaps he would not have written them.

In terms of black and white "Johns" death rid the world of an evil presence. In the multitudinous shades of grey that exist between those two stark points it ended decades of pain and unimaginable horror. Whichever way it is viewed, however, "John's" death was caused by "John".

I have been brought back twice from that release and have been involved with countless others who have attempted or were considering it also.

So one thing I know with certainty is that no-one is responsible for our actions but ourselves.

You neither killed him with your kindness, pulled a trigger, nor sprang a trap. All your words did was to ensure that when he finally fulfilled his own destiny he carried one spark of goodness over with him.

Rest easy, mate. It's over.

I wish I could find it in me to feel some sort of human compassion for the "Johns" of this world but I simply cannot.
What he and other paedophiles of this society is wrong and is unforgivable.
Solve the problem once and for all.
Create a one-purpose prison in the middle of the Simpson desert, lock them all up and throw away the key.

enkew
My comment was not a critisism of your kindness and compassion in fact I comend you for that. I agree with Goddess that a prison of sorts should be built to humanely house these people together away from society.

Young lives can not be rebuilt after they have faced this trauma, and no matter how repentent the peadophile is it is something they are unable to control, so for the safety of society in general they must be seperated from the rest of us.

I have suggested an alternative to sterotype prison in an earlier post, I stand by that suggestion.