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The forgotten victims of prostitution : Comments

By Jehane Sharah, published 12/11/2008

There are victims of the trade of prostitution who rarely get a mention: the partners of the men who use them.

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Interesting article and responses. I've never paid for sex, but I have known a few 'working girls', and also have been guilty in the past of being unfaithful to the women to whom I was unfortunately married.

I think that there's a reason for the cliche that prostitution is the world's oldest profession, which is primarily that there has been and probably always will be a demand for casual sex from people (mostly men) who are either sexually unsatisfied from their relationships or who are single. While this can obviously have emotional ramifications for those who are dishonest about it and their partners, I don't think that there's anything inherently wrong with separating sex from one's emotional relationships - nor, indeed, in paying for it.

As for prostitutes making "a business out of destroying a union that has divine sanction" - what a load of rubbish. As CG has pointed out, much of prostitutes' business is derived from unmarried men - and anyway marriage is a social contract between two people. There's nothing "divine" about it except in the minds of the religiously credulous.
Posted by CJ Morgan, Thursday, 13 November 2008 12:07:57 PM
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It is just one of those sad but nessesary aspects of society.
Posted by Ph00_stains, Thursday, 13 November 2008 12:30:15 PM
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The author Sarah has much to learn of Humanities, sexuality, and the myriad psychological nuances pertaining to her pedantic analysis of the World's oldest profession - prostitution. Her hypothesis borders on naivete, hyposcisy and " good-old-aussie-scepticism ".

Much of her lateral research is taken from the Canberra Times, Queanbeyan Post. It's one thing to read the local freebies - smut stories, Parliamentary scandal sheets, New Idea and Pru Goward's emails. OLO, is anyting but.

The plight of the housewife who discovers her " soul-mate " partner has been paying for dalliance at the local bordello, is no reflection on the darling's inadquacies in the boudoir. Males, since Adam have used the lame excuse to shift the onus of their character flaws, to some innocent third party. In reality, most men subscribe to infedility, pornography, voyeurism etc, and the more " ass ",available the better. Moreover, age is no barrier. Recent ABS crime statistics attest to the prevalence of an upsurge of prepubescent females being targeted by these predators. Schoolies, come to mind. The gendarmes overseeing these venues have erected caged barriers to keep ' toolies ', and DOM (dirty-old-men) from plying their subtle ploys e.g. bogus model agencies,ice, hidden cameras etc.

Feeling empathy for distresed spouses who can readily afford Psychiatric counselling, which involves multiple sessions is not always helpful. Prescribed expensive medication on spurious trial and error regimen is the norm. Importantly, the side effects can be catastrophic, even fatal. For the remainder Angela Jolie's: tit-for-tat, adopt a toy-boy, or use a male masseur, often resolves the issue.

Blaming the hoes for her man's indiscretions is counterproductive. Not all are glamourised Kidman's. Skipped meals,diets, starvation and rampant STD's wreck lives. Inherently, there's baggage, pimps and standover heavies. Their lot is not a Heidi Klum's upmarket penthouse. Many operate from Kombi's,roadside cafe's, or walk the streets. Truckies, salesmen, blue-collared workers, and your average small businesman are the clientale. Dont expect a six-pact job at top dollar. It's wham-bam-see-you-later-sam. So competitive is the rat race, Aboriginal half-caste as young as ten, will sell their souls for glue and a stubby.

coontinued..
Posted by jacinta, Friday, 14 November 2008 9:07:49 AM
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Any recriminations from either wife or harlot is illusionary. Since the days of Salome, Jezebel, Caligula's incestuous wife Messalina, and numerous nymphs and nymphomaniacs strewn across History, people hardly raise a blase eyebrow these days. Anecdotal evidence about promiscuity, addiction,cognitive dissonance, hypersexuality, erotomania, satyriasis, and a whole gamut of neurological obsessional disorders is passe.

Quote: ' prostitution behaviour in men is not natural '. Academia naivete at it's chronic worst. Now that Homosexuality is finally out of the closet, and the Gay Mardigras gains Oz acceptance and momentum, the movement is exacerbating ten-fold. Even Police and clergy are participating. Paedophalia, pederastry etc has been practiced by the Greeks and Romans since Pompeii. The first Olympiad was a man/boy bacchanalia. Today, teen age school boys short of cash are prostituting themselves in Brisbane's Botanical Gardens and schoolies Surfer's Paradise under survellance cameras with impunity. Who pays the phoney Pied Piper ?

Why the sensitivity and hyprocrisy ? Foxtell, SBS, and all the major TV networks are all party to hawking sex. Images, soapies, commercials, all portray nudity, sexual acts, and gross indecency on the hour, by the hour. Two million viewers watched Big Brother just to glimpse pornographic displays of copulating bimbos. Foxtell's nightly after 8.30 pm programs feature sexual violence, debauchery, nudity. Censorship is nonexistent. Once it used to be counting homicides. Now, it's fornification on the Big Plasma screen !

McCann and Co, should study Kinsey, Freud and McMaster's. Puritanical norms are irresponsible.What is acceptable sexual behaviour ? Deviancy, perversion,mastubation,obsessional paranoia etc come in degrees.There is no panacea to righteous sexual norms.Internationl cultures maybe abhorrent in Noosa, yet acceptable elsewhere. Provided it dosen't transgress criminal Law, society maybe better for it.

Finally,I see no problem with using hoes.It's a business transtion pure and simple, with no emotional connotations. Why complicate things with social hangups ? Women should become aware of their sensuality; improve their self-esteem; educate and empower.

Shrinks who play on emotional, introverted, disillusional housewives for monetary gain, posing as therapist should be struck dumb.They are like ghouls in a funeral parlour.

Jacinta
Posted by jacinta, Friday, 14 November 2008 9:49:35 AM
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There is of course another point here. Its not uncommon for females
to be extremely free with their sexuality during the courting days,
but once that ring is on their fingers, they can change.

As time passes, some realise that saying yes or no can also be
used as a weapon to manipulate their partner one way or another.

Some guys eventually get sick of all these little mind games,
so find that the often much younger pro, with the perky breasts
and no hassles fun, is an inviting option to the mind game playing
female.

Should she be upset, if she tried to play dirty and lost?
Posted by Yabby, Friday, 14 November 2008 10:36:14 PM
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Yabby

You may have a point there and of course there are other factors at work including tiredness through trying to be superwoman and most people work a lot of unpaid overtime.

This article is so simplistic and single-sided that no-one has bothered to point out the obvious which is that after the first two or so years of infatuation many couples tend to take each other for granted and that is why attentions stray. It is not restricted to men and heterosexual couples.

Get annoyed or despondent about your partner visiting a sex worker or having an affair is all a bit late because the horse would have bolted long before. I don't believe in the blame game because it takes two to tango and we all have to be responsible for our own choices in life.
Posted by Cornflower, Friday, 14 November 2008 11:37:52 PM
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